The frustration with girls...

Author's note:
I don’t mean to sound like a sexist or anything; this post is purely based on my experience and feelings

Ever wondered why girls can be so darn confusing at times? I'm not saying that they're a menace or a big pain, (I'm not a male chauvinist; in fact I have the utmost respect for people of the opposite sex, especially the intellectual ones!). But seriously sometimes, they just piss you off for senseless reasons. It's not so much the things they say to you, but rather I find their actions to be confusing and often times hurting...and the worst part is, they don't realize that they're hurting you.

As a gentleman, the proper behaviour you are supposed to display is understanding and patience. But seriously, there is only so much patience and tolerance a person can take. Now those who know me pretty well know I'm an impatient fellow by nature, and my past relationships with people have gone downhill due to my impatient nature. I always want to bury the hatchet quickly with people and as a result and at times, it backfires. Anyway as they say, you learn as you grow older and I have learnt to be more understanding and patient, but seriously, when a person crosses the line, I think its okay to say "enough is enough!"

But you know what's really screwed up when you start thinking this way? You start doubting yourself! *personal thought: or is it just because I'm a Libran, so i'm indecisive in nature?

What I mean here is that after thinking over it for sometime, you start to feel that you may have over-reacted to the situation and this kinda prompts you to think that you should be more understanding and evaluate the situation more rationally. But that's the core essence with human emotions, it isn’t always rational. If we were to be rational with our feelings, there would be no passion and we wouldn't feel hurt and neglegeted.

I have been very patient and understanding with this person. But yet, as the days are going by, I kinda get the feeling that I almost mean nothing to her ; it's almost like she's kinda gotten bored of me. The saddest part is we used to be really good friends, and it's not like we've had a major dispute or anything...yet her attitude has just suddenly changed...and she hasn't even bothered to be clear and face me about it.

The thing is I really don't mind if people want to stay away from me and hang out less with me, even if the explanation is irrational I can take it, but when you start playing the cold-treatment game, it just shows me how much you value friendship. It shows me how much I mean to you. One of the most painful things I can't take from a person is ignorance. When a person becomes ignorant toward me, my first natural instinct would be to break ties with the person. I feel that he or she isn't worth being friends with. I just can't stand people who I treat so well and with great care and respect become a cold stone toward me. It's just like a stab to the heart...and it hurts like hell.

And when you play that game, probably you will not realize how much pain you're putting on the other person who considers you to be his or hers closest friends. Rather than thinking that you're a selfish and self-centered person, usually the person will initially think that it's probably something that he or she has done to make you piss with him/her.

But then, when the treatment goes on for sometime, he/she will start to question the friendship bond that the 2 of you have. And if it goes on, and you don't say a word and continue being ignorant, don't be surprised if your friend suddenly explodes and wants to end the friendship...